Two sisters taking care of their mom while trying to live life and find love.

The Art of Letting Go


2013 has been an amazing year for me.  I turned forty, and love it. I was able to fulfill one of my “bucket list” dreams of going to South Africa. I was blessed to have another year with my family and friends. I got my “happy back” after losing my Dad in 2010.  There are just so many things that I’m grateful for, that the list is endless. But, I must say with all of the things, people, and opportunities. I’m most grateful for learning how to let go.

Letting go is so hard. Especially, when you’re used to being in control. When you’re always in control, every move is calculated to ensure you get the best outcome. It’s like a never-ending chess game. But, really all you are doing is blocking yourself from moving to the next level. You don’t realize that’s what you’re doing. You fool yourself into thinking that you are doing what you are supposed to do to get ahead. Or, you tell yourself  “God told you to move”. But, that is probably not the case. Especially, since you haven’t sat still long enough to hear what he wants you to do. When you’re trying to control the outcomes of your life, you make permanent decisions in temporary situations because you are just reacting. You are reacting to your surroundings and what people tell you to do. You forget that you have the highest authority on your side. All you have to do is go to him in prayer, and be willing to shut up and listen. 

I was that person. Well, I still am that person. I’m just in “rehab” 🙂 . I always was concerned about what other people thought of me. But, I’ve learned that life is too short to not live authentically. I’m not going to be everyone’s cup of tea, and that’s okay. The people who God wants in my life will be there. It’s all about understanding that this life is not our design; it’s God’s design. He is the only one truly in control, and the sooner we let him have his way in our lives, the better it will be.   

I’m a Caregiver, Daughter, Sister, Friend, Counselor, Cook, Chauffeur, etc. My list of jobs seems endless, and stresses me out just thinking about it. But, then I remember God will never give me more than I can bear. He always has my back, and that sustains me to press another day.  Also, shopping, working out, a massage, and glass of wine don’t hurt either :).

God reminds me that if I just give him my load, he’ll carry it. We can’t carry it together, and that’s the biggest lesson I’ve learned this year. I had to let go, in order to move forward in my life, career, and relationships.

So, that’s how I started blogging. I wanted to let go of the challenges in life that frustrated me, and I wanted to live authentically and be open about my life.  I pray that you are encouraged, and I thank God for the ability to let go and share. Live completely and authentically! Until we meet again



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You Have To Pay The Cost To Be The Boss

Is an old saying that I find applies to so many areas of life. Nothing ever comes easy. You have to be willing to put in the work to accomplish your goals. You have to be willing to have patience and strength to make your relationships last. You have to be willing to be a “perpetual student of life”to ensure you are constantly evolving. Only God knows everything, and he just wants us to respect that. That’s why he paid the” ultimate price” for us. He knew the “price” was worth the sacrifice. What in your life is worth the “sacrifice”? Are you willing “To Pay The Cost To Be the Boss”? 

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Sometimes You Have to Encourage Yourself

Today has led me to reflect on “Encouraging Yourself”. My Mom and I went to the doctor to get her blood work results. Diabetes is doing great. Levels are nice and low, almost pre-diabetic. But, her kidneys are getting worse. She has stage 3 kidney failure. Stage 3 kidney failure is just one step away from complete renal failure and dialysis. Definitely not what I wanted to hear. However, in spite of the negative report,there is good news.

The doctor thinks this can be reversed by my Mom increasing her water intake. She is dehydrated and her kidneys are paying the price. Isn’t that a blessing? To think if you just change your behavior, you can probably correct this condition. That was music to my ears. But, all my Mom could say was, “I guess I’m going on dialysis?”. How do you claim that defeat without a fight? What were you hearing that I didn’t hear? I heard there was still a chance; and she heard that the battle was over.

Well, I told her that we won’t be claiming that lie. That she is going to change her behavior and get past this battle. God’s not done with you yet. He’s not done with any of us. We just have to be willing to fight the fight. We have to be willing to speak a word over ourselves. Especially, when situations challenge us. We have to be willing to take the reins over our destiny and never give up. Only God controls our destinies, and we have to be strong enough to stand in that knowledge to win the battle. Until we meet again!XO

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“Well Done”

Many of us strive to achieve riches and fame. But, not many of us strive to be known by our sacrifice to others. The ability to give up your freedom, and ultimately the majority of your life for the good of a nation is a rare opportunity. Nelson Mandela seized that opportunity in spite of the consequences, and gave his life for the betterment of world. RIP Nelson Mandela, may your rest be peaceful and your journey eternal.

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