2chicksand1oldlady

Two sisters taking care of their mom while trying to live life and find love.

Love

If there is one thing that’s certain, it’s that I have not cornered the market on heartbreak and pain. There have been, and will be many people that have been hurt by love. It’s the one thing that’s consistently going to be the most sought after feeling in this world. It’s also one of the things, I have not been able to acquire. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been in love. But, I’ve never been engaged or married. That’s pretty rare for someone my age. I’m forty, so people always expect a husband and a tribe of kids to be around me :). But, that’s not how my life has gone. No husband and no kids. 

I used to struggle with that. I’ve always wanted to be married and have children. I had my life planned out, like so many other women. However, I’ve come to learn God can have different plans. Sometimes, you have children another way (e.g. through marriage, etc.), or you have a sixty-six year old mom that acts like a two-year old, and a thirty-five year sister old that acts like a sixteen year-old :).  So, I’m covered on the children part for now.  A husband, that’s a different story. 

I haven’t met the person I’m going to marry, and I’m not in a rush. I know that sounds crazy. Especially, since I just mentioned that I struggled with that. But, now I’ve realized that marriage is not a sprint, it’s a marathon. So, I’ll be patient until I meet my “distance runner”. I used to fall for the “sprinters”. I still do occasionally (another post for that story). “Sprinters” are the men that moved fast, and were shinny and sleek. All I could do was stand back and eat their dust. I couldn’t keep up with the hype, and I wound up licking my scrapes from falling down. It was until my Dad passed away that I learned that I need a “Distance Runner”.  My Dad was a “Distance Runner”. A “Distance Runner” is the man that knows you have to be slow and steady to win. This man is concerned not about how long it takes to win the race, he’s more concerned about finishing. This man has had the training necessary to handle the obstacles that they may face on the road, and can make adjustments as needed to stay the course. My parents were married until they were separated by death, that’s thirty-seven years of staying the course. That’s a blessing, and I’m so happy that I was raised with that example. It wasn’t perfect, it was love. That’s what I look forward  to having in my life.

Today, my mom called me into her room and prayed for me to have that love. She knows i’ve been disappointed recently with love; and wants to make sure I stay covered. It’s funny, I have to counsel and encourage her about my love life :). She doesn’t realize that the example that she and my father set, helped build this foundation for me. I know that God is going to bless me with my “Distance Runner”; he’s just making sure I can move past these “Sprinters” to ensure I can keep up. A prayer for love, I love my mommy. 🙂

XO

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Funny Moments

 

HelloImage,

I hope your week is going well. It’s Tuesday, and I feel blessed! Today I’ve been thinking about “Funny Moments”. Being a caregiver is very challenging. Balancing family and work is never easy. But, it definitely gets more stressful when you are trying to take care of a loved one. Taking care of my mom is a lot of work. But, I always take a moment to thank God that her health is good. The main challenge that we face, is her sight. Since she’s legally blind, her ability to do things is very limited. However, we work with it. We pack her lunch, and make sure she has everything she needs when we leave for work. But, I definitely find it funny that she can “see”really well when the following items and/or people are involved:

  1. Candy ( Jellybeans)
  2. Michael Strahan, Pitbull, or Robin Thicke ( She thinks they’re “hot”)
  3. Or when she wants something in general 🙂

You’ve heard of “selective hearing”? How about “selective sight”? The reason I know this exists, is due to the fact that when we ask  her to pick up the cheerios she drops on the floor, or fold up her clothes. We definitely find that her vision gets bad again :).  Not to mention, when we ask her to put her dishes in the sink. It’s like she’s never seen the kitchen before. Amazing how that happens! But, these little things are the “funny moments”. These are the times when I get a chance to laugh, and savor our time together. Funny moments can be very far and few between. But, we have to appreciate them. Sometimes, we get so caught up in the stress, that we forget about the funny moments. When that happens, the fear and anger set in. The fear that this is all my life will ever be. The fear that i’ll never find love, and that I gave up my life when I became a caregiver. It’s amazing how your mind can race to the negative when you forget to find humor in the funny moments. As soon as fear takes root; you can rest assured anger is right behind it. When you are operating on anger, your literally killing yourself. Not to mention, you’re making everyone around you miserable.  Which in turn can make being a caregiver unbearable. But, that’s why you have to find humor in the funny moments. The funny moments remind you of the love, and the love is what keeps you going. The love is what tempers your patience, and reminds you of one important thing to remember. This is a temporary situation. Life is not eternal, so one day this will end. How do you want to spend the time that you have with the person that you’re taking care of? Do you want to be angry? Do you want to laugh and create memories? It’s your choice how it will play out. Just don’t make permanent decisions in temporary situations. Savor and cling to the funny. Until we meet again!

XO

 

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Welcome!

Hello,

My name is Pamela, and this is the beginning of my quest to share the adventures of “2 Chicks and 1 Old Lady”. I guess before I start the adventure, I should let you know how the journey began. My life has been a blessing. I was raised by two wonderful parents, and have two great siblings. Our life wasn’t the “Cosby Show”. But, we definitely we’re raised with a great set of values and lots of love.  That love is what sustained me when my life changed on December 20, 2008. 

That’s the day my Dad passed away. When my Dad died, a part of me died too. We were so close. I definitely was a “Daddy’s Girl”. I still am :-). But, that will be revealed more as we go along this journey.  When my Dad passed, I became the head of the family. I moved my Mom from Ft. Lauderdale to live with me and my sister. My Mom has diabetes & is legally blind. So, living alone is not an option. Also, she is too young & fiesty for a nursing home. So, we packed up her stuff, and moved to Orlando. The rest has been three years of tears, fears, growth and love. I look forward to sharing all I can with you. My hope is for everyone to understand, that there will come a time in life when the child becomes the parent, and the parent becomes the child. You just have to know how to deal with it four ways.

1. Laugh often

2. Invest in prayer, patience, or a good wine company

3. There are no mistakes in life. Everything is an opportunity for preperation to move to another level.

4. Savor every moment . Love hard, Laugh often, pray continuously!

 

Well good night until we chat again!

XO

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Me

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One of the Chicks and the Old Lady

One of the Chicks and the Old Lady

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